What a burial!!!!
Are you still processing what happened in Oba, Anambra State over the weekend?
I know I am.
This has to be the most talked about burial in recent times. Especially of an individual that was not a public figure. I have seen Obi Cubana’s name a few times in connection to one Chief Priest Cubana. But let me not tell lies, I did not even know that Cubana was a club.
So, apparently, this man is very rich and had a shutdown celebration for his late mother over this weekend.
The indecent display of cash and the trappings of wealth that happened will be talked about for a long time. For me though, it was mostly memes, bants and laughs. Nothing serious. I can’t sink into depression about people’s money when I am able to buy food to eat. This is why I thoroughly enjoyed the whole spectacle and allowed myself to be entertained by it.
But I have seen a lot of serious discourse circulating social media and I have asked myself if it is that deep.
I have seen people reference what white billionaires do globally for the common man. They involve themselves in projects for the betterment of the world. People are asking why Obi Cubana chooses to throw money into crowds of scrambling well-wishers; rather than engage in some sort of developmental goal.
I am not one of these people.
Obi Cubana can do whatever he wants with his money. If it is ill-gotten, then it is a different story. But if it is money he got legitimately, it isn’t our business.
It would be nice if he could actually change the lives of people who life has not given many options with his wealth. But it is his money. Also, I have seen many people express disgust at the vulgarity of the whole affair. They call it classless and have made digs at Igbo people for being ‘loud’ with money.
Being married to an Igbo man does not make me in any way an authority on the culture. I do know that I have witnessed the propensity to be ostentatious amongst them. How they feel about wealth is definitely without the pretentiousness of the West or the conservativeness of the North.
Igbos respect money. Actually, we all do. They just don’t see the need to pretend about it. Especially their businessmen.
Having said this, we can all agree that Obi Cubana’s show was above the norm. It is by no means definitive of the entire Igbo ethnicity. So, people should calm down with the generalizations.
Let me not lie sha. When we buried my father-in-law last year, I wrote about what I found odd about the burial. The fact that so much is demanded of the family of the deceased. People come and feast and demand of their share.
I have heard of so many people who have had to struggle to raise huge sums of money that must be spent at a burial.
If you can afford it, great.
If you can’t, wahala for you. You will scrimp and scrape and borrow.
Obi Cubana could afford it. His friends alone could afford to sponsor it for him. Why would we have a problem with this?
I guess it is because of the crunch that most Nigerians are facing. A time when money is dire and difficult to get, we are seeing people make it rain…Just throwing millions of naira around. Imagine struggling to save for your rent and watch someone throw it on the ground in two fistful flings.
Money that will save the lives of people with medical challenges. Money that would build an orphanage. Or money that will fund kids hawking on the streets to school.
It is hard to see people throw such money at a man who has already.
But what can we do? It is their money.
And who even knows, Obi may be doing a lot for his community already without making it known to us.
At this point, I am rambling. Let me quickly make bullet points with a few takeaways.
- Don’t work yourself up on money that is not yours. It would be nice to have all the cash you need. But the fact of life is that it doesn’t necessarily mean that you will be any happier with abundance.
- People will do what they want with their money. We should learn to be comfortable with that. The fact that we have less than them and choose how we want to spend our money should make us respect their right to do the same.
- Rich men have plenty friends. People will give even more to the rich. The more you have, the more you will get. Whether this translates to real friendship is what I cannot say.
- Always be aware of your own size. Obi Cubana is not the standard. Bury how you can bury with what you have, keeping in mind that life is waiting for you. Don’t borrow or beg. You don’t need to put yourself under pressure. Whatever gets spent will not bring back the dead. So, the body of a rich person and a poor person have the same value. They are both dead. No kill yourself add on top.
- These Igbo dudes need to teach us how it is done. They need to add a course in all universities with a curriculum developed by Igbo businessmen. They need to cut this soap for us.
Finally, a living dog is better than a dead lion. You are alive, abi? Good. Don’t give up. Life still dey.