Tips about how you can make dating your next healthy choice:
Let yourself be complete and whole
It’s easy to jump right into a new relationship but if you want to attract a healthy relationship, it starts with being healthy yourself.
You deserve the time to heal, no matter how long it takes.
Let the first relationships you have be the transitions that they are
Don’t be too hasty to jump into a real relationship. First relationships are meant to help you heal, to move out of the loss you’ve experienced and then move on.
Don’t try to live by anyone else’s rules
Only you know what’s right for you. I just know what I need.” Because widowhood is not a journey we choose, and there is no one way to do it.
Wait until you’re ready
When you feel it is time. Be ready. If you’re unsure how to know when that is, your biological clock will tell you. “Something will click, and you’ll just know.”
If all else fails, grab a vibrator
Seriously. If you’re still experiencing any fear or neediness, that’s imbalance speaking to you. Listen to it. It might be that all you need is a vibrator.
According to considerable, this new time alone with yourself gives you the best opportunity to explore your own needs, your own body, your own desires. Plus, a vibrator will keep you from having random sexual encounters that might put your health in jeopardy.
Give yourself permission to partake
Whether it’s a date or sex, widows sometimes have to give themselves permission to participate.
Often, they are dealing with guilt, feeling as though they’d be betraying the spouse or the marriage, and that has to be healed.
One way to heal it is to acknowledge it and grant yourself permission to live your new life.
Don’t take on the role of victim
If you’ve taken on the role of victim, leave the “perpetual pity party” so you can transition into your new life as a single woman.
Take the stand that you will move forward.
Decide that you want to be the best version of yourself so that you can attract the most possibilities.
“Ultimately, it’s about choosing to live your life.”