Growing number of population is suffering from low libido (lack of sexual urge) because they are stressed with too much work.
Do you remember the time when your relationship was so sensual and passionate; that music flew in the air to your moves? Or do you not?
We live in one of the most sexually modern times of human history. From dating apps or contraceptive pills; advancements in technologies have opened a wild range of new possibilities.
From increasing acceptance of homosexuality to polyamory, the sexual revolution has matured; and the society has shifted with it. Advancement in technology with the introduction of mHealth has created a technological revolution using mobile phones; as well as wireless devices for medical and healthcare applications.
In a recent report, published by Progressive Markets, titled “Global mHealth Market – Opportunity and Forecast, 2014-2025,” the market is expected to reach $ 312214.4 million in 2025, growing at a CAGR of 36.48% during the forecast period, 2018-2025.
Despite such modernization, studies suggest that we’re actually having less sex now than we use to decades earlier. On average, no of times Americans had sex has declined by 15% from the late nineties. In the case of Britishers, people in the age group of 16-44years had sex just under 5 times per month; which is a significant drop from previous 6.2.
Another survey in Australia says that heterosexual couples were having sex on average 1.4 times per week; which is again a noteworthy drop from 1.8 previously. The situation is perhaps most severe in Japan, where recent data has shown that 46% of women and 25% of men between the ages of 16 and 25 ‘despise’ sexual contact.
Despite what we learn from romantic films or novels; practically, a good sex life takes some serious efforts. The fictional portrayals of love seldom reflect the complexities of real life, sexual life, such as a healthy work-life balance, the dreaded dry spells, stress management— the list can go on.
From tight deadlines at work to overdose of technology, here are few common things from your day-to-day work life that could be affecting your sex life:
Too much stress
Stress can be ranked as the number one slayer in low sexual desire. From worrying about promotions; project deadlines or that lucrative salary hike; work-induced stress can lead to significantly low libido. Dealing with so many worries can impact your sex life; aggravating the problem by possibly adding-up relationship issues.
It’s not just about the big factors of stresses, such as financial uncertainties or missing on an opportunity; that contributes to a low sexual urge. The trivial, daily stresses such as running late, not eating right, trying too much to manage time, and constantly squabbling your partner can also affect your health and sexual energy.
Working through the night
Despite open-mindedness and flexibility towards work in our generation, our jobs seem to completely take over our lives. Work hours are constantly high among people across the western world, with stats showing that a full-time employee in the US works for 47 hours per week on an average. It may seem logical to blame on the fatigue and stress that lead to low libido.
However, if you’re sending emails or scrolling through social media late through the night, it can disrupt your sleep-cycle and lower your sexual urge. These electronic activities rev-up your brain just when it should be winding down. Also, lack of sleep can create an imbalance among hormones like dopamine and serotonin, that can interfere with sexual functionality of your body.
God forbid if you’re working for a business that is constantly wobbling! Or if you own a business that seems to be on the verge of going into administration every now and then! The stress that is generated by such havoc is likely to produce more and more ‘anxiety chemicals’ in your body – like adrenaline.
The physiological effects of those ‘anxiety chemicals’ lead to a lower sex drive and makes it difficult for you to ‘perform’ in the act. Particularly, 6 in 10 men suffer from erectile dysfunction caused by extreme stress at work.
Working in an uncertain environment can be worse for your mental health compared to having no job, and this outspreads to one’s sexual life as well.
Tight Schedules and Busy Lifestyles
Life in the fast lane can cause exhaustion, anxiety, and depression in people – which may adversely affect their sex lives. Many of us find ourselves busier than we ever thought we could be, in our wildest dreams.
A busy schedule means a busy mind, and a busy mind can hardly find itself in a good mood “to do it”. With break-neck competition in businesses and corporates, some people start working early in the morning at six and carry on for more than 12 hours.
People even tend to skip lunch and many of them commute for long hours at either end of the day. When we see people leaving for work at 4:30 am and gets back home at 8:30om, troubles with their sex life would seem as obvious as clogs due to floods!
Being constantly busy can literally drain your energy and make even the idea of sex totally unappealing and exhausting. You might find it difficult to prioritize sex in your packed schedule and if would just linger like another chore on your mile-long “to-do list”.
No matter what your job, excessive work can also cause many sexual difficulties such as inability to get or maintain an erection, premature ejaculation or inability to climax. You might find it difficult to relax in bed and your partner may show anger/disappointment towards you because of these work-induced symptoms.
If there’s a huge work-life misbalance and work is affecting your love life disastrously, you need to do something about it real fast.
What sexual life changes can make for proper work-love balance?
Besides the hypothetical and luring solution of giving up your job, there are no magical answers. However, everyone can make simple changes in their routine – in spite of how busy they are.
These changes ought to bring balance into your lifestyle and help manage your mental, physical and sexual health.
1. Be honest about your desires
Sexual problems in our sexual life can cause aggression and lead to loneliness if you don’t share your concern with your partner. Some people do not have any desire for sex on weekdays as a result of exhaustion at work.
Instead, they need their loving companion to snuggle-up and listen to what has happened in their day.
If people remain non-vocal and ever discuss this with their partner, it can cause the other person to feel rejected and dissatisfied. Since are typically the result of stress or anxiety originating in the brain, both the partners need to be in it together.
Simply sharing the cause of stress, depression, and anxiety with someone is often enough for recovery.
2. Give your partner some attention
Honesty is not always enough to fix a struggling relationship unless you make your partner feel special by giving-out some real attention.
The only way to manage this is to value your time and never over-commit at work. Prioritize certain activities in your routine and free-up some time for your partner.
Your partner needs to feel important and affirmed – despite the lack of sex. So, make sure you spend adequate time on kissing and cuddling.
3. Keep track of your conversations and behaviour
People tend to induce a certain behaviour in themselves from the environment they spend their most times. Often, people take their workplace language and stress into their home and that can sometimes be abrupt, rude and terse. For example, stop giving out instructions to your beloved in the bed!!
Use your commute time to relax and unwind. Get into a softer skin before you reach home. You need to change gear from machine-mode to human-mode if you wish for a healthy romantic life at home.
4. Exercise regularly
It has been observed that people who exercise regularly tend to have better stamina and much better sex-life compared to those who don’t.
Physical activity triggers physiological reactions and stimulates the release of hormones that boost libido. Also, exercising regularly stimulates the growth of blood vessels while increasing the blood flow to genital areas.
Try to find that 30-odd minutes in your schedule to fit in a workout or a swim session. If running and swimming seem difficult, the try to get off the bus or train two-stop early and walk your way to the office. Like the office, take the stairs instead of lifts and maintain a desk routine to exercise.
5. Make sex special
Getting in the mood for sex is not as easy as unlocking your smartphone using a fingerprint. Do not to jump in right after the frustrating board meeting.
Researchers suggest that very busy people have a habit of adapting to a set sexual pattern. Try to vary your lovemaking. They find a boring and unimaginative routine and then they’re stuck with it for years.
Try to be in a relaxed frame of mind before you do make love. Use relievers like meditation, yoga, laughter, breathing exercises, and progressive muscle relaxation to reduce stress and tension.
Your partner definitely does not want to feel like the substitute for quick masturbation to reduce stress.
Partners want to feel loved and cared so talk, eat or shower together to spice things up and ensure mindblowing orgasms in your Sexual life.
It’s a common observation for most couples that, after a while, the frequency of those middle-of-the-night sexual engagement—not to mention racy text messages and lusty daydreams—began to dwindle.
While the dwindling of excitement is completely normal in any relationship; if you’re having sex less than once a month, your relationship could be, or probably is, at the brink of stability.
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