Most women find it difficult to please and satisfy their men in bed no matter how hard they try. For such women, sex is something sacred and a duty that has to be carried out, especially between married people.
They see it as part of the duty they have to carry out as long as they had signed the dotted lines and accepted the fact they will have to give sex to their husbands.
For such women, the man only needs to get an erection and she opens her legs and welcomes him. But sex surely goes beyond that. As a woman who hopes to keep her man to herself and stop him from straying, there are steps you need to take to give your man that mind-blowing, out-of-this-world sex that will not only keep him glued to you but always coming back for more.
Once you know how to please your man in bed, then you can be pretty certain that other women won’t even enter his mind.
If you have been worried that you have not been able to satisfy your man in bed the way he would want you to, you have to take a closer look at these steps and be on the road to improvement.
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If you can do the following five techniques religiously, then you will be giving him everything he could possibly want in bed.
1. Sharpen your oral skill
The result of years of research carried out by sex experts have shown that oral sex is the one of the most enjoyable part of sex for 85% of men, and your man may be just part of this.
You’ll be surprised at just how powerful his orgasms are when you do it right. So what kinds of things should you do to make sure he enjoys it?
Wetter is better: When trying to please your man in bed with oral sex, you’ll find that using lots of saliva is something that he likes very much. Why? Because when you give your man a really wet one, it feels more sensual and just provides better stimulation.
Focus on the tip: When trying to please a guy by giving him oral, you may feel like you need to pay equal amounts of attention to his entire penis. The truth is, you shouldn’t. The top is far more sensitive than the rest of it, which means it’s more pleasing to him to have the top stimulated more than the rest of it.
Finishing up: When you are trying to figure out how to please a man in bed, you may feel like checking out some pornography. You’ll notice that in a lot of scenes, the man finishes on the girl’s chest, neck, butt or face. This is not something you or your man may necessarily like, but it’s a great way to show him that you are willing to try new things to keep your sex life interesting.
2. Sex positions
If you are just starting to figure out how to please your man in bed, then it’s important that you are aware that nothing kills your sex life faster than routine. Do away with the boring missionary style, (the one we usually call mama-papa) you are used to and get some kink into your sex styles.
Most couples only ever use one or two sex positions all their lives but you must try some new and hot positions if you really want to add spice to your sex life.
To add spice to your sex life, you try one or all of these styles tonight.
The Washing Machine Position: In this sex position, you will be standing and leaning right over a washing machine or a table or even over the hood of a car. Your man will be standing too and will enter you from behind.
The Lap Dance Position: In this position, your man will be sitting down on a chair or sofa. You then need to back up onto him with your butt so that he can enter you. The reason that it’s called the lap dance position is that you can smoothly transition to sex from giving your man a lap dance.
3. Talk dirty
If you want a quick and easy tip on how to please your man in bed, then you’ll find that getting vocal and talking dirty to him work wonders.
But it’s a good idea to understand that different people have different opinions and preferences on getting vocal and talking dirty. Some aren’t particularly confident and don’t like the idea of saying dirty things to their man in bed, while others are happy to talk dirty to their man. The funny thing is that it doesn’t matter, as long you are vocal to some degree.
You could simply be moaning and sighing or you could be using explicit and nasty lines to urge him on. This would make him know you appreciate the effort he is putting up to make you happy.
As long as you are giving your man the feedback by being vocal to some degree and letting him know how much he’s pleasuring you and turning you on, then you are going to please him a lot in bed.
4. Play out his fantasies
The key in keeping your man satisfied in bed is finding out his kinks and fantasies and exploring them with him. The first part is finding out what they are. This can be tricky, but if you are accepting and open when listening to him as well as being non-judgemental, then he will have no problem sharing them with you.
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When you do find out what they are, then it’s time to start trying them out with him. You’ll notice that as you explore them with him, he will start to open up to you about even more of his kinks and fantasies.
You don’t have to do them all with him, but if you can do some of them, then your man will be eternally grateful and appreciative.
5. Your attitude
Your attitude when you are in bed with your man is all about how you approach sex with him. Do you approach sex with him like it’s a chore that you can’t wait to get over with?
Or are you enthusiastic about trying new positions, tips, tricks, tactics, and techniques in bed with your man? Whatever your attitude is now doesn’t matter. The key is changing it so that you become more enthusiastic and eagerly look forward to getting sexual with your man.