Some family – no – most families have their dynamics and trust me, if you can become a little nosey (you can call it minding other people’s business); you will be thrilled by all the funny stuffs that are brought about by the different arrangements that families come in.
If you grew up in an all-girls household for example, your friends silently wondered how you survived because of how crazy your home looked whenever they visited
– there was always someone trying to wring another’s neck for wearing the flowered dress they wanted to wear.
You were copied!
If you are the firstborn sister, your troubles increased. You see, it is not as if the others did not have a mind of their own; they just felt a bit lazy to think of something that had been thought about already.
I mean, if you wore the purple jeans with the blue top and looked nice; why must the others suffer trying to figure out what to wear with their purple jeans? And pray it was not your pair of jeans they were wearing.
Boundaries on clothes just did not work
It is funny how your blue top became your sister’s favourite; and she ended up wearing it more often than you did. It did not count if you had a ‘Margaret Thatcher’ mother who raised you to strictly wear what was yours. Doesn’t matter if one of you was too possessive; and did not like it when ‘people’ touched their items. And God forbid that you had the same body sizes!
Also there is always that one item of clothing that you all saw and loved at the same time when it was being sold; and the result is that, after it is bought, it belongs to everyone and no one. I always suspected foul-play here because surely one person must have seen it first! The concept of “family skirt” will make absolute sense if you grew up in a girls’ only home.
You started to look alike over time
I don’t know if this occurred because you ate the same food all the time… or because you spent your childhoods arguing over the same doll. After some time, people started saying that you all look alike.
I often wondered how this happened because whether your sisters look like your mother and you are the only one in the family that looks like your father, people will still gasp at how alike you all look! Is it that parents look alike?
Your parents will use your names arbitrarily
Perhaps this comes with ageing but you are familiar with your mother calling all of you at the same time…Ijeoma, Chioma,… That is when you tiptoed through the back door if you were the one around and you are not in the mood to go to the market and get supplies to make dinner.
Every time the sisters sit down together, it feels like a conspiracy
Especially after you start to go off to college and live in your own apartments so that you are not constantly under the same roof. When you meet, the mere presence of all of you in one place is just too much energy and even your parents might be afraid of what you are planning.
You tend to have a wall around you and deep, classified secrets only for the ears of the sisters.