Things you need to do if you want respect

Things you need to do if you want respect



Respect means a lot to all of us. We want it in our personal lives and in our professional lives as well. We want to be appreciated for the work we do and to get proper recognition for our contributions.



Even before Aretha Franklin had her hit record in 1967, people have been demanding respect. Odd, since its is something that must be earned more with action and less with words.


Some people are naturally respected; others have to work for it. It can often depend on the people you hang around or the environment in which you live or work.


It’s never too late to start earning respect if you feel it’s lacking. You should start by taking an honest look at yourself and how you treat the people around you. Then go to work on being respect-worthy.



Things you need to do if you want respect



Here are tip for gaining respect.


1. Start with them

The number-one obstacle to earning respect is narcissism. If the first impression people get is that you are all about you, you will have a tough hill to climb to be respected. Be aware of what is happening in people’s lives.

Act as an observer before taking action. Show genuine interest and empathy. If you authentically work to improve the environment for the betterment of all, respect will rain down upon you.


2. Find it yourself first

Forget hoping for respect. Some people will respect you, some won’t–you can’t control it.

Focus on feeling good about yourself and what you do. Find ways to measure what you do, and evaluate yourself using those standards. If you’re doing what is right, what is best, and what works for you–and those things are helping you achieve your goals–then the people who matter will naturally respect you.

But better yet, you’ll respect yourself, and that’s the best of all.



ALSO READ: How to maintain respect of others in your work environment



3. Follow the golden rule

To gain one, you must be worthy of being respected. Be a good person–someone who looks for the best in others and who follows through on his or her promises.

Tell the truth, be transparent, and genuinely care about others. Show your gratitude early and often. Respect the people you work with, and they will in return.



Things you need to do if you want respect




4. Begin with self-confidence

Gaining that of others begins with respecting and believing in yourself. A lack of self-confidence is easily recognized–consciously or subconsciously–by those from whom you wish to earn it.

People who become overly absorbed in their quest for admiration definitely appear lacking in confidence. So just let it go. Live your purpose, help others, and enjoy the process, and then you’ll be a magnet for respect.


5. Understand that it is reflected

Respect is a direct reflection of how you treat others. Building one takes time and is earned as you interact with others. When you don’t feel respected, it’s easy to overcompensate and start barking orders, micromanaging tasks, bragging about your accomplishments, and demanding attention.

This behavior pushes others away. This is a common problem for new managers as they learn how to effectively lead a team.

Qualities of the most respected individuals we work with include quietness, thoughtfulness, and inquisitiveness. These traits reflect their desire to acknowledge others. When these leaders make a decision, no matter how unpopular, their teams are accepting because of the respect they have for the leader.




About The Author

Osigweh Lilian Oluchi is a graduate of the University of Lagos where she obtained a B.A (Hons) in English, Masters in Public and International affairs (MPIA). Currently works with 1stnews as a Database Manager / Writer. [email protected]

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