Timi Dakolo has spoken about the rape controversy that rocked the media in 2019.
In a recent episode of Life Lessons with Betty Irabor, the Nigerian singer, Timi Dakolo spoke about how the rape controversy involving his family and COZA pastor, Abiodun Fatoyinbo almost broke him down at the time.
According to the talented singer, it was one of the difficult things that he had to do as a man.
Speaking about standing by his wife when she shared her story with the world, Timi said;
“It’s probably one of the most difficult things I’ve ever encountered as a man and as a person.”
“When we stand before the altar and the priest and say, for better for worse; I’ll be there, these are the times when they count,” he said of the moment he stood by his wife after she told her story.”
He explained that we all have things “unsaid” that “break us up and crack our soul” and he wanted his wife to be free from hers.
“I just wanted her to be free.”
Explaining her decision to come out, he said she told him: “I want to say my truth.”
“I said are you sure, she said ‘yes’, I said ‘I got you.
I got you when you don’t got yourself’.”
Timi Dakolo said they sat down and discussed all the things that could play out when she comes out with her story after which he told her, “but don’t worry, I will be here.”
He explained how he reached a decision to keep her sane by preventing her from checking out certain toxic comments on her phone.
Speaking of the first moment she opened up to him, he said he knew something was wrong based on the switch in her attitude that showed different sides of her. He said she’ll sometimes break down in tears but was reluctant to open up to him.
“When she eventually did say, I now said to her, ‘now I get it’. I didn’t used to get the switch.”
He said his love for his daughters enabled him to understand his wife’s plight as a young girl; and he was able to stand in as a father for her; and treat her the way he would want his daughters to be treated.
Watch the complete interview below.