My name is Willy, a 37-year-old married man with two children but the problem I have in my marriage is that my wife is in the habit of assaulting me at the slightest provocation.
I have endured this abuse for over five years now but I don’t think I can take it any longer. I have been tempted to send her packing but the thought of our kids growing up in a broken home keeps me from taking such an action.
I met my wife, Rita, through a cousin who was her friend. I had just come out of a terrible relationship when I met her and though I was not ready for a serious relationship then. But she showed some qualities of a good woman and I began to fall in love with her.
But one thing I noticed about her was her quick temper as she got angry easily when things were not done her way. I tried severally to dissuade her from such assertiveness but to no avail.
I should have seen the warning signs and taken a walk but I was blinded by love and went ahead to marry her and that was when she showed who she really was. She changed from the nice lady I met and became something else.
The first time she hit me, I had just come back from work, tired and hungry. Before I left for work in the morning, I had given Rita money to prepare vegetable soup and Semovita for me but when I got back, she had made rice and when I queried her, she got angry and told me if I wanted to eat something else, I should go into the kitchen and make it myself.
I got angry and shouted at her and to my surprise, my wife stood up from where she sat and dealt me a heavy slap. I was shocked and stood there looking at her, wondering if this was the wife I got married to barely three months earlier.
I quietly left the house and went to a nearby restaurant where I ate. When I got home, instead of apologizing for what she did, Rita started another quarrel with me, telling me I was an ingrate who did not appreciate all that she did at home.
Since then, she has continued with her habit of assaulting me. She hits me at every provocation. At times, things a couple can just laugh over gets my wife angry and she would use anything at hand to hit me.
She has inflicted wounds on me on a number of occasions but I always refrain from taking any action because of our kids. There was a day she slapped me in the presence of my friends but I took it as a man and let it go.
It is not as if I am weak or that cannot beat her but I have never raised a finger on a woman all my life and I don’t want to start now.
If I decide to beat her, I may end up killing her. And if I beat her now, women rights groups and feminists will come out calling me all sorts of names but now that is my wife beating me, they will still say I am not man enough to handle my home.
I am against divorce because I come from a broken home and I know the effect it had on me. However, I am stuck between the devil and a hard place and I don’t know how to tame my wife.
Dear readers, Willy is in a dilemma and is crying out for help on how to handle his troublesome wife and marriage. So far, has been a gentleman but for how long can he hold on? On True Confession today, what do you think he should do?