My name is Vivian, a 38-year-old mother of three. My husband of 12 years, Paul, has been making life a living hell for me all through our marriage as I have been going through serious pain and anguish.
My husband is such a brute, sadist and has turned me into a punching bag and beats me at will, even at simple things that couples just laugh about. When we were dating, Paul was a very caring man and a gentleman to the core.
In fact, he never lost his temper even when I did something wrong but the moment we got married, he changed and became a monster. He would pounce on me at any time, even in public and would tell anyone who tried to intervene that I was his property.
Even when I became pregnant for the first time, Paul beat me up and I had a miscarriage. The funny thing is that after beating me up, he will come begging, promising never to repeat such again but within days, he would be back at it.
I know how many times I have had to be admitted in the hospital with either a broken arm, leg, ribs or swollen eyes all because of his beating.
In all of these harrowing experiences I have gone through in my marriage, our pastor and church elders still think there are no grounds for a divorce, often quoting some Bible portions to support their assertion that there is no place for a divorce in the Bible.
They keep telling me that since we got married in the church, then under no circumstances could we get a divorce as we were joined till death did us part.
And because of that injunction, Paul believes that no matter what he does to me, I will still stay with him but I fear that he could kill me one of these days as he has not reduced in the intensity of the beating.
I need to run for my life and stay alive for my children but our pastor and even my family members think I must stay put and keep praying for him to change.
I need help fast.
Dear readers, after reading Vivian’s story on True Confession today, what do you think she should do? Should she go ahead and get a divorce from Paul against the advice of her pastor or stay put and hope he will change?